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One of the greatest killers of you fulfilling your dream is fear. Today, we are going to talk about the fear that creates inaction inside each of us. Fear is that voice inside of you that offers another task when you know that task is not essential to your success. Because fear can be rationalized and hidden behind a ribbon of logic, it can make it difficult to identify and conquer your fears.
Fear by another name
Think of fear as a procrastination tactic that makes everything except what you should be doing appear more important. This could be cleaning your house, organizing your office, or going grocery shopping. Each of these activities have value, they just don’t move the needle as much as the activity you are trying to avoid.
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What does fear look like?
In order to conquer your fears, you need to first identify them. A simple technique to help you identify your fears is to write down all of your beliefs on a sheet of paper. These are the beliefs that shape your life. You can include your beliefs about money, raising children, lifestyle and family to name to a few. You want to divide your beliefs into two categories.
- Universal beliefs. These are beliefs that are universal truths that do not change for anyone.
- Individual beliefs. These beliefs are going to be based on your personal experiences. These experiences could include your education, family, culture, friends or religion.
Each time you interact with the world, you create a mental note of the experience that goes into your subconscious. There, these beliefs are stored and will manifest themselves whenever a similar situation occurs. One such belief would be your belief that what comes up, must come down. As a child, you may have jumped off your bike or threw a ball in the air. As an adult, you may get nervous about skydiving because of your beliefs about gravity.
We are going to spend the bulk of our time today discussing your individual beliefs. You are going to find some of your beliefs are not a big deal and they work for you. Leave those beliefs where they are. Even though there is a lot of good information regarding the benefits of waking up early, I get a lot of best work completed at night. That belief is based on the all-nighters I pulled in college and the success I found.
Conquer the fears that sabotage your life
As you continue exploring your individual beliefs, you are going to find a handful of beliefs that are detrimental to your success. Some of these misconceptions are going to be beliefs you believe to be universal truths, but that is simply not the case. Your limiting beliefs that keep you from living your dream life have been conditioned into you from a young age.
A part of the problem is the sound-bite world we live in. People are not as interested in understanding the nuisances around a particular issue. Instead, people go around making blanket statements as if it is true under all circumstances.
Imagine if someone came up to you and asked you to build a house, but told you that you cannot use a saw for any reason. They go on to tell you how the saw is useless and a waste of time. If you are trying to bang a nail into a board, sure a saw is worthless. However, if you are trying to cut the board in half, the saw is your best friend. The problem is people don’t look at tools and methods as they are something that can work in one situation and fail in another. Instead, people assign feelings and emotions to the tools and then they are arguing based on feeling instead of fact.
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Identify your fears and false beliefs
Below are some limiting beliefs and fears that may be holding you back from rising to the challenge. This list is by no means exhaustive, just scratching the service as their are a lot of beliefs that could be holding you back.
- Things never go my way, so why bother?
- There is no such thing as love
- Promotions are based on who you know, not what you do
- The rich get richer and the poor get poorer
- We can’t afford to do that
- Happiness comes from the outside
- I can’t trust anyone or else they will take advantage of me
- Kindness is seen as a weakness
- You can only be respected or loved, not both
By looking at these beliefs, you can imagine the actions someone would take. How likely are you to be in a serious relationship if you believe there is no such thing as love? How compassionate would someone be who believes kindness is a weakness? You can start to see how your beliefs have a direct impact on your actions. The main issue when attempting to avoid pain is you sacrifice pleasure in the process.
Reprogram your subconscious
For you to conquer your fears you need to invest the time into understanding the likelihood of success. Too often, our beliefs are based on feelings, but the facts are in your favor. All you need to do is find an approach that has been proven to work. Once you have a proven model, your confidence will increase as you continue to work the plan.
You have heard it only takes 21 days to make a change, but the achojah lifestyle is a commitment for the entire year. You need to spend the entire year listening and absorbing information that will slowly become your new belief system. As we discussed earlier, your experiences create your beliefs, and your beliefs create your habits. If you want to change your habits, you must change what you believe.
Remember, your fears are going to be based on one of two things.
- someone else’s inability to do something that they have projected onto you
- your inability to do something that you haven’t invested the time to improve
To overcome your limiting beliefs, you need to read, listen, and watch information that proves those beliefs wrong. If you like reading, there are plenty of books and articles available. If you prefer watching, a vision board and documentaries may be options worth exploring. And if listening is your preferred method of absorbing information, then affirmations with an audio book is a solid approach.
The goal is for you to absorb a daily amount of information that will allow you to change your beliefs. If you feel after 21 days that you have conquered your fear, then move on to the next one. You want to create the habit of absorbing information on a daily basis that is going to program your mind for success.
Final thoughts
Everyday you are going to absorb information, so why not make a conscious decision to adsorb information that will help you on your journey of chasing happiness. The achojah lifestyle focuses on building consistency everyday, so set some time aside everyday to discover valuable information that will change your life.
Until next time,
Continued blessings,
Dre “living the achojah lifestyle” Griggs
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